Wednesday, August 13, 2008

NO REGRETS

For years and years I have always told people (especially my family) to think carefully about what you say to each other, because you never know if those will be the last words you ever speak to them.

Last week I talked to my Dad. We talked about the kids, about him possibly coming to visit and about him being there when I got my Master’s Degree. We even talked about my trip to India. It was a nice conversation. His last words to me that day were, “I love you Babe” and my last words to him were, “I love you too Dad.”

Those were our last words with each other. Yesterday afternoon, while at a friend’s house, my dad took a deep breathe and passed away. No warning, nothing.....just gone.

Family and friend’s who truly know about the relationship that my dad and I have had over the years, know that to say it was strained would be an understatement. But there was never a time that I didn’t love him. There has never been a time in my life that I can remember not yearning for my dad to be in my life.

I am thankful that I can cherish that last conversation we had. I am thankful I took the time to witness to him even when he didn’t want to hear it. In those areas I can say I have no regrets.

Please take my advice – never leave angry, whether it be in person or on the phone. Take time to tell those close to you how you feel. And above all, learn to cherish the moments because before you know it they are gone.

4 comments:

Leah said...

(((((Tami)))) I'm sorry for our loss. I'll be praying for you and your family.

Susan said...

(((Tami))) I'm so sorry to hear of your dad's passing. Having lost my mom, I know the value of those final words, and I'm glad you had sweet words with your dad!

Nikki said...

I've been thinking and praying for y'all a lot today. I hope everything is going good. Love ya!

Carolyn said...

Tami, I'm so sorry. I think of you often!
Hugs,
Carolyn